WW post D (Thanks BenB part 4)

[Mumin]

Thanks for input there has been a bit of diverisity in topics.
I will consider and answer more later.

Now I would appreciate some input on a current matter:
My father in law just contacted me.
Me and W grew up in the same city and her father lives close to my parents.
Now that me and the kids are going to spend a week at my parents he wrote:
"I heard you are coming to town with the kids. I really hope you and the kids come and visit. We can eat ice cream in the garden" (He is 75 yrs old and Corona risk person)

TBH I really dont want to meet him right now (he reminds me a lot about W and he prescibed birth control pills for her way back in January). It also feels wrong that I am to be responsible for allowing kids to meet grandfather (on mothers side). I dont think W will travel to her father.
At the same time, of course the kids should be able to meet their both their grand parents (if they want to).

What is your take on this? If I do it this time I will be expcted to do it every time I go to visit my parents...
IF we actually go there I will of course be faced with talking about me and W...