The break up happened. With all the trimmings - cops, fake injuries, guilt, everything out in the open. And all the crazy stuff, 141 attempts to contact him.
You are wise to be wary. There are many issues that H needs to prove he has worked on. Demonstrated consistent long term behaviour.
It’s pretty normal to be uncertain how to navigate - it’s all unknown. Don’t try to manipulate. Let go, it will unfold on its own.
Let go the fear. H is still in God’s hands. Let Him work.
You keep living your peaceful life. Shine and continue moving forward.
H and OW just broke up. That will take some time to purge, for the dust to settle. Breaking up is hard to do. I hope H stays the course.
I would suggest that when H reaches out, you talk to him. Give him that nice soft place to land. He is going to be beating himself up, and all over place. You will have time to discuss those topics that need discussion, later on. Be patient. Remember the path you are on. The goal.
To be clear, I am saying cordial, friendly, non threatening, non judgemental, emotionally supportive safe place to land. Nothing more until he is well progressing. Yes, to light hearted conversations over a meal.
As you said, just live your life. He’s got some heavy lifting to do. Let him.
You haven’t place boulders in the path. It’s up to him.
It will be interesting to see H and D20 interact. I hope it goes well. There is another bunch of heavy lifting for him.
Have faith Grace. Especially in yourself. You got this.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
