Hi KC Just wanted to drop in and say I’m praying for you. Don’t worry about what he’s doing. It’s inconsequential to your life right now. And the more you focus on the H and what he’s doing and why the less focus you can put on yourself and your recovery.
It’s ok that he’s “Facebook” official. Doesn’t change anything that you didn’t already know. As far as the D. There’s no rush on that. I mean why? If I had to guess it’s just easier to deal with you while you have false hope and continue to do everything you can to get him to take notice of you. Makes it easier to get what he wants out of you. IMO its a form of manipulation.
I’m going to tell you something and it may come off harsh and that’s not my intention. However, for now, your husband is over you. He’s not coming back. He doesn’t love you. He’s doesn’t respect you. He’s the not the same person you married. Your relationship isn’t the same as when you married him. He believes he loves another woman. He doesn’t love you anymore. Please understand that. He doesn’t want to be married to you. He wants very little to do with you unless it benefits him. I promise you he’s noticed every single attempt you’ve made to get him to notice you. I guarantee he’s relieved when he leaves. It doesn’t matter if he’s married to you. He doesn’t want to be. I don’t care how subtle you think you’re coming off. At best he doesn’t think to much about you the moment he leaves. At worst he’s going home and telling the OM everything.
I hope you consider IC. I know you are doing some book reading and doing those steps. But the progress I’ve personally made and a lot of people on here have been with the help of a professional. There’s no shame in it.
I’m going to continue to follow your sitch in the hopes you make a sustained breakthrough. And I will continue to pray for you and wish you nothing but peace and comfort
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
