I finally come over to the boards and read this thread and can I just say, "YAS QUEEN!" (clap clap clap). Your strength, resolve and calmness is very refreshing to read! I believe that all of your hard work and determination over the years has led you to this point. Can you see that? There are these cycles of grief that vary for everyone and I think similarly there are cycles in the deaths of our marriage. We come to this site in the throws of disaster and we all want to know how to get to the end game. There isn't a short cut. We can't bypass the steps and hard work. By "end game" I dont mean saving the M necessarily, but I mean a mental place of genuine understanding, confidence, and detachment. This is the place where we can be our best self and make good, solid, decisions. I believe that you are there. You have worked hard and I have seen (read) it. Now you can see more clearly what you want in an intimate partner and how you deserve to be treated by an H. This guy right here and his abusive baby, ridiculous tantrums is NOT IT. And this is his huge loss!
You keep forward on your journey and your rewards will be plentiful! I know you can do it. Congratulations on the job promotion. You have so much to celebrate and look forward to! :-)))
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
