Yes, this tends to happen. Life is not easy sometimes, it is full of challenges and obstacles. I've sure had a lot of 2x4s in life - some much worse than others. Those 2x4's hurt a lot - but you gain invaluable experience and become a lot tougher for it.
Originally Posted by unchien
Maybe my MR could have been saved had I taken steps to address my issues sooner... years sooner. Maybe that would have been enough to get us through a rough patch.
Marriages are 50/50. You were 100 percent responsible for 50 percent. W was 100 percent responsible for 50 percent. Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself
Originally Posted by unchien
One side thing that happened recently: My W and I had agreed early on to keep mutual friends out of our D. She violated our agreement egregiously recently. The friends seem a little naive, but they essentially got involved on her behalf and it's hard to believe they would be gullible enough not to realize what was going on. I'm not angry, but I'm also left wondering if I want to keep that friendship or let it fade.
Hard to tell without context what this means, but I totally get the need for anonymity.
Believe none of what they say.
If the friends are unaware of all that is going on, I wouldn't blame them.
