FS: I can understand why people go through phases of online dating, it is pretty tiring and you have to kiss a LOT of frogs! I also wonder if I will ever want a R again, but I think we just need to keep healing after our long marriages and eventually we will be open to someone new. That's what I think and what I've seen happen to friends too.
The dog I am definitely not reading too much into! And part of me thinks that he believes his family didn't love him unconditionally enough so he's getting a dog to do that. I do hope it helps him, I really do. It is definitely no coincidence though that he's getting the exact same type of dog that he was devastated about his mum getting rid of during her MLC. The dog seems all part of his MLC, and I don't think it's particularly fair to drag either an animal or a human into your MLC. We'll see. It's not really my business. Other than this type of dog needs about 4 hours exercise a day and destroys houses if left alone too long. The second home was exactly that, somewhere to spend weekends and school holidays. I am really attached to the place, I often used to go there for a few days just by myself or occasionally with a friend as well as with the family. I went probably once a fortnight or so, and I really do miss both the place and the house. I'm angry that he's taken it over. Knowing him though he won't stay there for that long. He will say that it's 'not big enough' because he will have filled it with all his crap that he never whittles down, and then he'll move elsewhere. Part of my long game is talking to my solicitor about me possibly buying it in the future if I can afford to. He's hunkering down there now but won't want to live there forever, if I know him at all. Talking of H's stuff, I have been getting rid of more of H's stuff now that textile banks and charity shops are open again. Another boot full of his clothes and shoes and probably a few more to go. I already got rid of lots of his stuff before but the house is full of it. This really is a man who is addicted to getting new things and then ignoring them but never getting rid of them. I should have thought more of that when he first left, that he would do the same with his family...
