Alison: I spent so many years making excuses for my H's poor behaviour. He was working too hard, he had this stress or that stress or this thing going on or he hadn't got enough sleep or blahblahblah. It's one thing to make reasonable allowances for bad behaviour and someone going through a rough patch. It's another thing to spend years letting them justify being a crap partner and parent. I was definitely complicit in allowing H to give excuse after excuse and even making some of them on his behalf. At some stage they have to take responsibility for their emotions and the impact of those on others. Your H really needs some decent therapy...
