Trying to be hopeful...

[Pommy99]

Sage, my H did exactly the same at the beginning of May. He told me he wanted to come back, he told the kids, and then about 3 days later he started to backtrack right to the point where he said nothing had changed and he didn’t have romantic feelings for me, and that it was guilt that made him tell himself coming back was right. I hit the floor big time. The pain I felt was untenable. I dropped the rope, I backed right off, I started to plan for a life without him in it. I went NC as much as poss. As you know, this works very favourably in my sitch. But I wasn’t doing it to win him back, I did it to protect myself and the kids. I wanted to take drastic action but realised there is no hurry to file for D. Sit with it for a while. He is confused and scared as well. As May says, focus on you and let him work out his stuff.

Re the dreams, I have had bad dreams of H and EAP twice this week. I am putting it down to insecurity bubbling under the surface. Try not to second guess his feelings about her. Keep strong, you have been doing really well.