WW post D (Thanks BenB part 4)

[Mumin]

First off thanks for all the replies! Ovr, Ginger, Steve, Vapo!

I see a lot of good input in every post! Thanks!
I fully agree that my main issue/focus is to heal and work on myself but like Ovr said practicing flirting is part of that.

When I actually start (which is probably 2 months from now, or even longer) I will be very transparent about my situation and that I am NOT looking for an R. I will be out to meet women and have fun.
For me this is all about getting my swag/mojo/confidence back with women and "re-learning" flirting. It is part of the my growth process. I am not sure I will want to pursue an actual R in any less than 2-3 years. I have so much I want to learn and work on and I dont think it would be appropriate with the kids.
Anyway, I dont think or hope that Tinder will be my primary "source" for meeting women but where I live and in my age its either Tinder or irl. I my understanding other apps or dating sites dont really apply. Unless you get invited to secret communities like BenB.

All reading I do is to get a better understanding of myself, women, life in general, behaviors etc and to establish a reference when needed. So, I know 3% man might mainly be for later but I am sure it will be helpful nonetheless.