Alison ~ I can only imagine how hard this process is for you. At the same time... Wow... you are so composed and balanced amid the difficult circumstances. I think you have the perfect detached mindset and approach, including having a plan for the worst-case.
Your kids are so lucky to have you as their mom. Your H may be an emotional child, but you are showing them the way to handle life with confidence and emotional maturity. That doesn't happen in many "happy" marriages.
I wouldn't be surprised if your H continues with the mocking. Even when we change our behavior, they are wearing such thick lenses they can only see what they want to see. For your kids' sake, I hope your H eventually can get a handle on his anxiety (and his need to control to reduce his anxiety).
