Hey lady, just catching up on all the Mr. May drama. Dear lord, you have strength. I'd have been on the local news by now.
There's just a few things I want to say, post-nup thing sounds great to me. My legal S plan was always so I wouldn't be the one pulling the actual D trigger but be protected and provide my good insurance for D16. With LS in my state tax wise it's treated like a divorce, but you can file a reconciliation at any time and a unilateral divorce 12 months post decree date. My thought was always well I'll do this to protect me and show him I'm serious and if he really wants that D he can go do it himself. I didn't want it I'm not doing the leg work.
Next, as far as the bed goes if it isn't affecting your emotional well being I'm all for you being petty af for as long as possible and seeing if he'll wander to another room on his own with out your permission.
The friend thing is just p*ssing me off at this point. Do you y'all live like inside Disney Land by chance. Because the amount of imagination required for this little story line of his is on another level. I'm not asking that you reason with him but just in case you wanna throw some of these out there. Exes who are friends are friends long after the break up. No one wakes up one day and rolls over simultaneously with their partner and says "divorce and then friends?" and then they do it. Like this is absolute insanity. My baby daddy as I like to call him are cordial only because I choose to be. He's never not a hot a** mess. I actively choose to be kind to that loser for the sake of our daughter. That is the only reason we maintain the allusion of friendship. This lil friendship idea of his is entirely possible, but........Years and years and many glasses of wine and therapy sessions (professional and drunk friend style) down the road. He needs to get over it. But he's been pretty clear he can't get over anything every so....
I'm proud of you. You're dealing with this dumpster fire of a situation with a ton of grace and a whole lotta b@lls.
