sorry you're here. Have you read Divorce Remedy yet? There's a lot of good stuff there, and it is a lot to absorb. Your W second guessing is good. I would keep the pressure off of her, she's not ready to feel any pursuit, touch, dating, kissing, "Relationship talks". Definitely don't tell her how bad you want her back and have the big relationship talk. When and if she is ready, she will let you know.
Give her the time and space to sort this out while you guys be the best guy you can be. Make serious changes that you've been putting off, and do it for the purpose of making yourself a better guy and not just winning her back. Your W will be able to see right through any fake changes. Learn how to listen and validate without chipping in your 2 cents.
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Here’s my question - is it normal to feel like your giving 110% and getting back 10%?
2 part answer:
1. Yes 2. Feelings are just a thing you make up inside your head.
A personal rant: the phrase "I feel like" is insanely overused and I don't know when it got so popular.
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We are worse than roommates but she is getting full support to be in nursing school and I’m doing everything else.
You're paying all the bills and she isn't currently contributing right? That's part of marriage IMO, and if you're going to try to bust this divorce you'll have to live with this arrangement.
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I love her, but how long do you give and give until you want to run away?
That's up to you, so what do you think?
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
