The past 48 hours was so surreal. It's been all focused on my daughter's "back yard prom" since she didn't get one this spring. I had a decent list of things to do. Throughout our marriage, I've always had a pretty substantial honey-do list. However, over the past several years, I've also been frustrated that these are all solo projects. I hate working on DIY projects around the house by myself.
So this party tonight was very welcome, because the whole family was working together to pull it off. My wife had the vision and planning, but certainly did a lot of the actual work as well. On the other hand, I can hear her voice in my head from previous discussions that she is irritated because she always has the role of motivator and that no one else will do anything if she doesn't take the lead. Of course even the kids recognize that we all wait for her lead so that we don't deviate from what is in her mind and thus fail to do things the correct way.
Nevertheless, my goal during this endeavor was to communicate much better than in days past. Be very clear on exactly what she wants and do it her way, so that she does not feel that I am "sabotaging" her. For the most part my efforts were successful, and it felt like we were back three months ago when I first got home. But there were not any overt signs that she feels any different than three weeks ago. And most notably, she still never tries to talk to me about anything meaningful or relationship related. And I've been very good not to bring it up
