Thanks, Steve. That is helpful. Not that it matters at this point, but maybe for BlueSea-- I think I probably dropped DBing behaviors too early. In fact in thinking about it, I think I had maintained my detachment for the most part for the first couple of months. Because of Covid we didn't talk about our R at all, and there weren't a lot of opportunities for me to show emotional attachment, at least on the negative side. We did have fun together and the friendship was there. I did have slip ups here and there, like on our anniversary, but it wasn't until the last couple of weeks when I pushed to start talking about the A and our R that it appears to all have gone downhill and he reconnected with AP.
Steve-- do you still feel emotionally detached from your W?
BlueSea-- thanks and I'll hold you to it
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
