Reading about these interactions-- the good ones, the bad ones, the neutral ones-- is part of what makes the idea of S so hard for me. It is impossible to not wonder, at some level, what is going on in his head and what it all means. Sharing children means they have to be a part of your life forever. UGH.
Sorry if that was unhelpful.
If I was going to mindread, I also think your friend was correct, and he's probably bashing around a bit in his head-- the reality of the S/D, the new GF, telling the children or not, "his" house, his relationship with you. He sees that the comfortable limbo he's enjoyed is ending and that is hard. I might expect more of both ends of the spectrum from him for awhile.
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
