Piecing Myself and Not My Marriage

[may22]

Oh Alison,

I want to echo both Sage and Scout. You are wise and strong and resourceful and capable. For what it's worth, from a total outsider's perspective, I think you've truly thought this through and you know you are doing the right thing for yourself and your family.

And, I am here for you too, whatever you need.

I am sure he must have some good qualities for you to have married him, but from what you've shared here, they seem to be buried. He has a lot of work to do to be capable of a healthy R with anyone. I am sure once you and the children get some space, you'll feel far, far better.

Also, in terms of your work success-- you ARE loved and valued, and I hope with time your memory of sharing the news first goes to the friends you told online, or how proud you felt when you got the news, not of your sad H snoring away.

Now I'll ask you something you've asked me recently-- how can you be kind to yourself right now? I'm guessing it is now the end of your workday. Can you find some sort of self-care mechanism to indulge in for a bit? Get out of the house for a long walk? Anything you can do to help yourself find some space and warmth.

Hugs, Alison.