I do think he made it clear that their R was over in February. He said he fully expected her to move on at that time. Also because one of his reasons for ending it was because she didn't want children and even though she'd been backsliding on that in Jan/Feb, he knew it was important to her and something he wasn't willing to do. But I do think in both of their heads they were both holding onto the flame of maybe at some point in the future. I know he was for sure. On her end, who knows/cares. She has given him ultimatums throughout all of this and then backslid. It sounds like they broke up half a dozen times because she didn't want to be with him unless he left me. But then a few weeks later one of them would reach out and it would start back up. I thought this time would be different because it was him that made the choice.
You think that because........YOU WANT TO.
And this all proves everything I said in my last post: Plan A is on shaky ground.....that is the only reason he is still holding on to Plan B. We have a saying around here: A monkey doesn't leap from the branch it is on, until it identifies another branch that can support it.
Also, believe nothing he says. I see a lot of "I think" and "I know for a fact".....based on his words.
He is a lying cheater. One thing about lying cheaters is they will lie, and cheat, for the furtherance of their own purposes. Do not stay in denial. Denial is something that will work very badly for you in your sitch. I see a lot of LBWs that struggle with denial. And it really hurts their DBing. Face the reality, assume everything he says is a lie, and act according to the principles you have learned here.
Oh, and I agree with those above that said be good to yourself!! The best way to do that is to not tolerate mistreatment from others.
I know you asked me to come to your thread, and I detected that you wanted me to because I was able to R with my W and you wanted to know the best way to get there with your H. The problem is that there can be no true R as long as a third person is involved. So to have hope he has to jettison this OW....and you have no power or control to make that happen.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
