My male bff just pointed out to me... I'm legally separated.
He's right. I have the document to prove it.
And, the document actually states that there is hope that the marriage can be saved....
I need to go out and live my life. This is a trial period for us both.
Maybe that's why I'm no longer getting any pressure from him??? He's doing this trial period too.
Maybe I can't grasp the concept that my H is done... but I can get the idea that this is a trial. Maybe I can walk away and let things be and let him feel my absence during this trial. Reframe my thinking.
(FYI male bff doesn't feel my H is coming back so he is not trying to mislead me but trying to point me in a direction where I can be more productive and positive.)
Then maybe once I'm out here in the real world and time goes on... I will think of him less... feel less panicky... start doing the logical thing and not the emotional thing.
