I vacillate between just having it out with him... getting everything off my chest instead of stuffing it down and being done.
What reaction are you hoping for? If it's about getting it out so you can let go, writing a letter and then burning it works wonders. I've done that before and so have other forum members.
Originally Posted by KitCat
To explore what a cooling off period is like - for me? for him?
Exploring what "cooling off" looks like for you is fruitful. Exploring what "cooling off" looks like for him sounds futile since he's not interested (jumped right into a PA) and you can't make him.
Originally Posted by KitCat
What if we were too hasty?
Were you or are you too hasty? You don't control his haste.
Originally Posted by KitCat
What if it didn't have to come to D?
He has not filed for D, you have not filed to D. It doesn't have to come to D until one of you files. Of course, he's left you, bought a new home, and has moved on with someone else.
