[may22]

Hi Scout,

My friend and I were joking about what age-appropriate communication looked like... at what age can you say "your father couldn't keep his d**k in his pants"? Maybe for younger kids it need to be "your father couldn't keep his wee-wee in his pants?" Obviously kidding but it made me laugh.

I just want to reflect again on what a great mom you are. I think it was really smart to take a little time to decide how to respond. I know the sending poop-filled undies back has got to be so infuriating and ridiculous, and I appreciate how you took some time to not react to that, gave him the benefit of the doubt that he might not feel comfortable throwing out something you bought, etc. You took your time, figured out the best way to talk to the school, didn't react out of emotion, and handled it the best way for your son. How are you so calm and collected with all of this?

I know it must be hard to see your S coming back home without naps and having inhaled candy or whatever when he's with your ex. That would drive me absolutely bonkers and you're right in that there isn't really anything you can do about it. It is outside of your control. He may never have the perfect father figure. But he has YOU. And is an incredibly lucky little boy.