8 month things improving

[Rita]

BPD, they totally come and go. My H did things like this too. They are very confused. You have to decide if you have the stomach to stay close while she is unsure. I would not get into R talk or tell her she has demons. Your telling her that does nothing. She has to realize that on her own. It might take years. You are rushing! Live your own life and decide if you want to live separately. Expect nothing from her until she initiates something deeper and looks and acts different. Try to read your post as if you were reading a friend's e-mail explaining all that about a woman he just started dating. You'd never advise him to keep dating her. You can keep standing but that doesn't mean you should believe anything she says. You can keep flirting and sleeping with her if you have the stomach for it but you need to assume she will keep doing this until she is ready for real transformation. She can't truly reconnect with you until she is herself again.