WAW after 15 years

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I think you're confused on what your DB coach means and what, for example, Steve means.

You can be friendly and build rapport without being dragged into the friend zone. It's about boundaries IMO and sticking tight to your values.

Frankly, I'm not 100% sure what you mean by saying you are "committed to working on the friendship". I am not friends with women that aren't my romantic partner, sister, mother, cousin, grandmother. Never have been. Doesn't mean I'm not friendly with my W's friends or work colleagues and women in social circles. What does working on the friendship mean to you? Also, what does your DB coach mean by "working on the friendship"?

These DB coaches are trained by MWD so I fully believe there are good reasons they say what they say.