Persistent Endurance (Part 8)

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Curtis,

This sounds like a really difficult situation. I see your frustrations, but also understand other posters here in that you don’t seem to change your attitude.

I agree with Steve above. Give her a timescale and implement an action if nothing remotely positive comes out of it.

I disagree with Ginger in that all cheaters don’t ever change. I’ve never understood the saying ‘Once a cheater, always a cheater’. Some are repentant and improve. Not all drug addicts relapse when they go clean, for example. One quote I read on here was ‘the best apology is changed behaviour’, so if someone is very serious about changing their past ways or vices, even at the expense of a R or M, they do it (however long that takes) and it sticks, that’s a good thing. Whether the other person in a R/M with them sticks around to see the end result is another matter.

It seems like you both would benefit from IC, separately. I’d definitely look into that. IC was invaluable for me. I wouldn’t be where I am now without it.