D20 had a friend over for dinner. After dinner the friend went out for a smoke and D20 joined her to chat. I asked W "So fam what are we going to do tonight", expecting the usual answer of "Let's just watch a show" or even the rare "Let's play a game". What I got was, that if the D20 left with the friend then the W wanted sex. Then she came and laid down next to me in my huge living room chair and put her head on my chest. She laid there and we conversed about mundane things until the friend left and D20 did not (About 30 min or so). At that point W said, "Maybe we can try again tomorrow" and got up moved to her normal seat and asked to watch TV. I don't have my hopes up for it to happen tonight. She has many times in the past, been "in the mood" one day and a cold fish the next. We shall see what happens tonight.
Now, I am sure most people reading this may be thinking the W wanting sex is a good sign that maybe she is coming around, that she may be feeling more attracted to me or "in love" with me. I wish, but I am not so gullible. As I mentioned before we have been to the point of having sex once maybe twice per year for nearly a decade and even before that was only about 4x per year. However in the 30 days leading up to the BD we had sex probably at least 15 times if not more. Which means she was getting turned on by the OM or by thinking about the OM and then using me as a human dildo. In other words my W doesn't need to be attracted to me or "in love" with me in order to want and actively seek sex from me. I will also mention that she did make a comment yesterday afternoon that I have been making a lot of changes very fast, so she is paying attention. Maybe the changes I have been making are working.
This is why I think my sitch is likely more difficult to figure out where I am than most that I read about. In most cases the WW/WAW is getting sex outside the marriage or is really walking away, so the sex drops to 0 for the LBH and when she wants it from the LBH again it's usually a good sign. For me the sex didn't drop to 0. Instead, it hit all time highs at the height of the EA/PA. So I find myself asking, is her wanting sex her trying to reconcile, is it her trying to keep me from D'ing her, is it her signaling the EA/PA is back on, or is it just a random bit of her being horny and I am just the nearest human dildo?
Regardless of the answer, I will not be turning it down. I am also not going to be attaching any significance or meaning to it, I am just going along for the ride and enjoyment.
