You want to be happy with your romantic relationship, like everyone else here.
Originally Posted by Rdy2Change
April 2020- He of course goes out gets very intoxicated and sends me a message in the middle of the night.. end up sleeping together
May 2020 I get a message on a Sunday early evening he is clearly drinking and we just laugh and joke like 60 messages back and forth
June 2020 he decides to show up in the middle of the night again after drinking. My D is not home so we go in and are watching tv and end up sleeping together again.
Magic Decoder Ring: He's not wooing you with romantic dates, he's chatting you up when he's drunk and then having sex with you. You're not the woman he dreams about settling down with. Even for a casual relationship, there may be better matches than someone calling you monthly when they're intoxicated.
Originally Posted by Rdy2Change
I immediately told him we could not talk I was not going to be the other woman. That was a trait of the past relationship I left.
It sounds like you tend to date unavailable men.
CoffeMeetsBagel, eHarmony, Match, Tinder, etc. are full of available men.
Maybe only 10% of your dates will be compatible, but that's 5 months instead of 1 year, and most of those dates can be fun if you approach it with a sense of humor. Yes, there will be duds.
