I’m just getting all caught up here. I’m so sorry about this sudden turn. I can imagine what a huge let down that must feel like.
I’m obviously terrible at all of this and I don’t even feel like I have a leg to stand on to advise anyone here, but I do agree with the majority here that the hard, cold LRT approach is needed for your sitch. I say that because I genuinely think it might get you what you want.
I think you have continued to handle all of this very smartly and you’ve been so strong. When things go haywire, those are the times to double down on those traits. I suspect that if you take the hard line with your H and stick to it, it will serve you well.
Just wanted to drop in and let you know I’m here with you!
