Notice how fast he dropped the ‘Don’t you know how much I still love you?’ facade once you threatened him with consequences? That’s the emotional abuse right there.
Fighting you for the house would financially and emotionally devastate not only you, but your children. And probably him as well. He knows this. And he would do it without a second thought to punish you for finally standing up for yourself? May, I don’t think this man loves you. He’s using you. Allison is right, he’s trying to frighten you to shut you up.
Your response should be to draw up your spine, look him dead in the eye, and calmly say “then we’ll fight for the house”. Then turn and walk away. He’ll bully you only as much as you allow it.
You could try telling him that you won’t discuss anything further until you’ve gotten legal advice. He’ll probably scream and stomp his feet about it, or if that’s not his style, try to make you feel guilty for it. Oh well, that’s his opinion.
You’re so close to making the next step, May. I mentioned on Hope’s thread about acceptance being the first step towards healing. You’re nearly there.
I know this all seems like it’s happening so fast - just last week you were imagining a very different future. Go at your own pace, but be prepared. I hate to say it, but you can’t trust your husband.
