Hi everyone, it’s been awhile. The last couple of months my wife and I have been reconnecting. Doing everything together, laughing, loving etc. No heavy talks at all. It’s been great with an asterisk. Last couple of weeks she has withdrawn again and 2 nights ago an unfortunate event occurred. She got very drunk and texted a different OM. That she needed him to be sexual with her. I saw the text and it was incredibly hurtful. She was trying to make plans for the next day to meet up. Next morning I confronted her, she denied anything was really going on and it was just drunk text. I actually do believe her. They of course never met up. I have been holding a lot in the last year and it came out. I expressed to her that I believe she is depressed and carrying demons. She didn’t argue it really. Last couple of days she has a lot of guilt. She deleted her Instagram account that she messaged with. She did stuff she didn’t want to do and explained it as punishment. 5 mins ago she just came in the room and apologized for things saying that she knows that I’m not the wife that I thought I married. That she does overthink things but she doesn’t think she carries demons. I thanked her for the apology and said it’s been really tough trying to process all of the things she has said and done. She agreed it would be tough. I have been a total wreck over the latest incident but then quickly tried to detach. I’m am just so shocked for the apology, she is not the type to do this. Not sure where this goes from here. This can not be my normal for a future. This as everyone knows is unfair beyond words. I would be nice if the latest incident would be rock bottom but who knows. We talk and flirt and carry on like things are good but the elephant is just too large.
I would appreciate any perspective. I honestly believe that the latest incident was a blip and she hasn’t done anything like this since last summer. This all hurts so much.