I will always have regret that my M ended. No amount of therapy or reading will change that.
This is what I don't get. I can see regretting ever marrying a lying cheater, but I don't get that after all he has put you through that you regret it ending. This is your second marriage, right? Do you still have regrets about the first one ending?
This is my first marriage.
I was in a long term long distance dating relationship with an unexpected pregnancy at the age of 32.
Was he a lying cheater when I married him? I don't feel he was. Could I have done things differently where he didn't feel so rejected, disrespected and neglected by me? I wish I did. Were his choices appropriate? NOPE. Can I sympathize with the amount of hurt he was carrying unbeknownst to me - I can. I'm not condoning his choices or his actions but I see his suffering.
Am I going to disregard 10yr of my life where he was a most wonderful husband because the last 5months he disrespected me??? That's like giving someone a life sentence for first time minor offense. Just because I don't vilify doesn't mean I condone his choice in actions OR have put him on a pedestal.
I will always carry regret for the loss of my M. I accept that how he proceeds forward is out of my control. I won't stand in his way but I will not do the hard work. HE MESSED UP - HE NEEDS TO CLEAN UP. Please confuse my regret over the end of my M to mean I worship him.
