Finally, a year after moving out and 6 months after retaining my L, I am getting a little bit of traction. Actually some major traction. I can't reveal much.
I would say it is a huge relief, but I have gotten used to handling things with equanimity especially the last few months. By learning not to be reactive to the nonsense going on in the past, I've also learned to take successes in stride. I feel more content and at peace than I have at any point. I hope it lasts.
It is not enjoyable to go through the legal process, but I feel like I exhausted my other options and handled things in accordance with my values. Some of the things being said in these legal filings are absolutely shocking - just outright lies and fabrications Even 3 months ago I think I would be in an anxious tailspin. Now I accept this is how family law goes, and almost everything that transpires confirms my conviction that I am better off now.
I am really grateful that I found my L. She has delivered every step of the way, and always takes my input into account. It's extremely expensive, and in the end we will likely come to the agreement we should have been able to reach at the kitchen table without lawyers.
I have an offer to transfer to an exciting position within my company -- not sure if I am going to choose to do so right now. I've been exercising a lot - either lifting weights in my garage, or surfing when I can. Life is good.
