Now in hindsight, it appears pretty obvious that she was purposely excluding me and never once asking when I'd be home and/or available to go with. Then, I got the email...
Yes, by BD, our partner has usually been considering it for some time.
Originally Posted by ShaneG
So Sunday, I learned that my WAW and girls are headed to Colorado next week for vacation. The trip that my wife and I had planned before my "involuntary sabbatical", as the girls call it, and got cut short do to be restricted to in-state trips only, which is still the case.
That may have happened either way, but yes the timing's terrible, a lost dream, a mini-trauma.
Originally Posted by ShaneG
You are emotionally distant, incapable of acknowledging other’s needs
I see! Well, first DB'ing encourages validation, which directly addresses "acknowledging the other's needs." Read the thread on validation. Agree when you agree. If she screams, "You were never here when we needed you!", you validate "Wow, you sound really angry," and maybe "I did leave you alone for a year."
I supported you in walking away from her venting because you were arguing, but normally, it's good to actively listen to what they're saying and validate. Anger indicates attachment. Where there's attachment, there's hope. You don't want to add barriers like, she needs to go to MC to tell you things.
Now, if she's just cursing and insulting you, walk away. Also, realize she's telling you why you're firED, not why she's considering firing you. Doing those things she wanted before is often too late.
