Thanks CW. Yes it was tough, but I feel not saying anything was something in itself, and sent a strong message.
My sister disagrees and says I should have reached out, and that I might be overthinking it. I don’t feel that way though. Whatever XW feels about my NC, I won’t ever know and nobody will tell me.

But it’s done now. I can let tomorrow roll on and continue to GAL.

I figure: XW only has to take a glance at me, or hear from others about what I’m up to, to see my drastically changed behaviour, that I have worked damn hard and improved for me and me only, am reaping those benefits, and see a way more confident man, who is fitter, carries himself better, and less stressed. I’m not being v.2 just for her. My self respect is much higher these days.


Me - 36, W - 32
No kids
T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr
Discovery - 14 May 2019
S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019
D & House sale final - Feb 2020