I totally agree with that quote and have advised myself and many friends on it many times. I’ve often looked back to a time very early in my relationship with H where I caught him in a (completely unnecessary) lie and called him on it. His reaction was to throw an actual tantrum where he cried a whole bunch and then was angry at me for being angry at him. That was the first of many times, and he still does that to this day (not the crying, but definitely the gaslighting). Admittedly it was one of the main reasons that I was desperately unhappy with our relationship. I guess I did think that ALL that aside that the one thing that would be kept sacred that he wouldn’t ever lie about would be things related to our daughter. Unfortunately he proved that to be untrue as well.
I would like to set a boundary on the touching. For my own sake and to be true to myself, I don’t want to be nasty about it. I’m just not sure how to set that particular one. Any suggestions?
