When someone shows you who they are, believe them!
This is such a great quote. Sometimes when I get frustrated with people, I ask myself, "Why did I expect anything differently?"
Hope, one thing I did (mistakenly) was suppress my anger because I thought I needed to do so to detach. I think many of us here do this. Once I connected with the healthy part of my anger, it really accelerated the detachment process for me. Whereas before I felt an emotional swell from upsetting texts or interactions, I now mostly feel indifferent or mildly annoyed. My kids are hanging around a shady character, I've voiced my opinion, and other than that there is nothing I can do.
I'm also not suggesting you should be happy with his 6 month plan, nor am I saying anyone has it worse. My point was mostly try to look at both sides of the coin. Yes, he's patronizing and smug and seems to know you are still attached and uses that to his own advantage. At the same time, he does not sound like a soulless hedonist and he at least has some awareness of D4's sensitivity to the situation. Personally, I agree with you that 6 months is too soon.
Re: the touching stuff, if it bothers you, please set a boundary.
