hi. I want to thank you for the top notch advice you have given me. I've read up a bit more on your thread here. Like me, it is easier for you to see others' situations more clearly than your own.
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He didn't really invite me and I didn't really invite him.
You guys are both a bit worried, so just go slow. Remember that pressure and anxiety is something we create and wouldn't exist otherwise.
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Always throwing me off this guy.
In some ways, he's keeping it fresh. Isn't that good for a relationship? Eh, eh?!
As a guy I can say that we are conditioned a certain way and that conditioning has its positives and negatives. You want him to talk more and open up, well I think you know how that works normally but now your situation has a strange element (affair) involved. Gotta breathe, gotta keep cool. Things will come around. And if they don't, you can always leave anyways!
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When he does sleep with me we inevitable wake up wrapped around each other. I get confused for a second and just roll away or pull my limbs away. He gets upset.
One of the DB principals is to do what works. Doing what works isn't what always feel best in the moment. For example, I am more than capable of eating the whole thing of Oreos, that won't work for my health goals though! So do what works.
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It is a little harder to define "just sex" when you wake up being spooned by the person telling you it's just sex.
Yea that does sounds confusing...try not to read into things too much. I can tell you like to think and analyze, it's probably a strength of yours. Sometimes you gotta take off the thinking cap and put on your party pants.
Overall, I think you seem to be progressing and doing well.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
