My W is still very confusing. The W, D20, and I spent some time together yesterday and went out to dinner. Several times throughout the day, the W was talking about long term future plans together, and referring to us together using her chosen grandparent names (Loli and Pop). Every time she did I kind of just stared at her blankly, b/c what was going on in my head was "You crazy B, you are about 3 inches from being divorced and kicked out and you are making 3-5 year plans?"
I also feel like our positive interactions are still mimicking to a large degree our pre-BD behaviors (we really aren't fighting or arguing any more with 180's). For instance her still kissing me goodnight and saying ILU. I was thinking that I might ask her to stop kissing me and saying ILU until she can do so and actually mean it. It feels weird b/c now I feel like it's a lie and she is faking it. It might also give me some sort of barometer to know when she is coming around. Would that be a bad idea or a good one?
