Turning lots of corners - DaB35 Part 8

[DaB35]

That's good news about the reconnection - must be quite exciting.

I guess I feel a pang of guilt as of course I have done *something* for her birthday for the past 9 years, the last being when S was in swing.

Not reaching out is a form of DBing then. She might be assuming I say something, and turns out I don't say anything at all. I expect if she then says to her friends "Well, do you know, he didn't say anything to me," they will force their views on her of, "OK he clearly doesn't care about you," "Better off without him," "That says it all," etc.

I suppose the subsequent aspect of this as a DBing technique would be to not let that affect me. I can't mindread, so all of that might not happen at all!

It's difficult since it's the same day as my sister's birthday, so that was always a nice talking point. XW would always forget when my birthday was however - she got the right month but regularly would get the date wrong!

Best to keep GALing and know that it's her loss.