Thanks everyone. My conviction was for making a false/misleading statement to a federal investigator. I was not involved in the illegal activity of my client, nor aware of it. But at the beginning of the investigation I was purposefully vague when the govt called to ask questions. If you happen to follow politics, its very similar to what they did to General Flynn.
Consequently, a RO is very unlikely. And in fact the department of justice will tell you that they prefer that you stay in your own home as that is the best way to reintegrate into society. I'm following all their rules.
Another consequence is the loss of my law license, and thus I am way under-employed. Thankfully, my wife has never cared about the money that I made and always encourage a more humble approach to career. I am now working at Lowe's earning substantially less than I was, as well as substantially less than my spouse. There is a realistic expectation that a good divorce attorney could get me staying in the house as well as temporary spousal support. Child custody would likely be evenly split and there is only one kid left underage, so child support is unlikely either way. When the third child hits 18 and graduates in three years, there would likely be a court expectation that we sell the house and split the proceeds, or that one spouse refinances and pays off the other.
Naturally, my goal is to save the marriage, thus the reason that I'm here. I've been somewhat anticipating the empty nest while also recognizing that we would need some help during that transition.
One of the first things that I picked up on when starting to read the book and watch the videos, was how Michele talked about therapists/counselors vs marriage coaching. I think this is exactly the problem we've had! We went down the path of marriage therapy that rehashed the past, leading to the "need" for individual therapy to understand history. While I think the individual therapy certainly helped me personally, it never helped the marriage. And I can now see that it was because we never had a true marriage coach that was helping us find solutions. But all that is for the far future, hopefully.
In the meantime, I appreciate the support.
Incidentally, I never realized until the past week just how much music out there advocates for saving relationships by doing the opposite of DB. For that matter, most tv dramas and movies do the same. Ugh!
Its no wonder that an LBS behaves as they do!
Thanks again for the support. I'll start a different thread that is more historical fact driven just for background, but I do appreciate the quick and concise response to my question!
