Persistent Endurance (Part 8)

[MrBrside]

One reason I posted this update was that I was hoping for some advice

But you never follow advice.

what I feel moves me closer to my goals...MR plan, MC, her moving her stuff out of the affair house, physical contact, etc.

You still don't grasp anything. You are where you were 18 months ago. You really are, but your focus is fix fix fix, - This sentence sums it up perfectly - What YOU want.. Youe wife does not want this. She is done with you, she probably doesnt love you and she does not want to be with you - and she has no respect for you. As both me and CW pointed out, you come over as controlling and you do not listen. This sentence above shows its all about you, and again shows that you only read what you want to read / what you feel helps you.

The best bit of advice is the SAME advice you have received for 18 months.
Detach, stop checking on her, let her go, get rid of the horse and GAL / do 180s.. But you will totally ignore this advice..

I don't know how to broach these topics and she seems content with limbo

You dont broach these topics.
1) - actions not words - and your actions always have a motive, but never a consequence. File and get rid of the horse - But you wont.
2) - limbo - She is in love with another Man - NOT you. She is cake eating galore. She does not love you, but wants the security / horse / kids / enviroment you provide - But does she want you - No, not at all - But this isnt what you want to hear, so you decide she is in limbo. She wants her AP, not you - drop the rope and let her go.. "please leave ( no ultamatums ) and collect / relocate the horse with in 7 days - goodbye.

I also don't want to pressure and be controlling while she is in A withdrawal. It's like a delicate balancing act.

She isnt in affair withdrawal and never has been ? Do you really think this - after everything you have read on the wayward mindset ?

Honestly - Please start back on Cadets welcome post Curtis.