Originally Posted by MrBrside
Still telling her ! You really do come across a controlling.

Curtis, I felt that "controlling" vibe all throughout your post, too.

Originally Posted by MrBrside
She said that he and others have said the same thing about me and that is when I get what I want and that is total control of her, that I will change back and treat her poorly.

Imagine if you 180'd that controlling behavior, how obvious the change would be! I so, so want to see you succeed. It may require you to hit rock bottom and make big changes but it's possible.