that sounds hard, and your H sounds like he is making very poor decisions right now. I don't mean in terms of your relationship - perhaps ending the marriage is absolutely the right thing for him and both of you (I don't know) - but I just mean in practical terms, about his and your business, about the house lease (which sounds like an impulse he didn't think through) and about the work travel and what your children need. Generally, people make impulsive, awful decisions when they are panicking - when they feel like an animal caught in a trap.
I am not suggesting you are the trap, that you are ensnaring or trapping him. Presumebly he chose the marriage, the children, the business and the financial ties that bind your lives together. But maybe it all feels that way to him now.
I think perhaps the quieter you are and the more space you can give him, the more he will be able to work out what about his life he wants and needs to change for his own happiness, and what he wants to keep the same.
How is your GAL? Did you choose your piece of art to study yet?
