Last week I was stopped by S2's daycare teacher when I picked him up. She told me he had a much better day, to which I replied that I wasn't aware he was having bad days? Looking flustered, she told me they had informed X, on the one day a week he does daycare pickup, that S2 had been unusually rough with the other kids. She apologised several times for not informing me separately to X. I said not to worry, but please do let me know in future any concerns about S2. I also mentioned that X is uncommunicative about childcare which makes things difficult.
They assured me they would inform both parents separately in future.
They also told me that X had asked them to keep soiled underwear and send it home in S2's bag, whereas I had instructed them to dispose of any soiled undies. This was apparently confusing and awkward for the teachers. I let them know that X doesn't have clothes for S2 at his house (or his own room/bed, according to S2) and has been sending soiled clothes, complete with solid poops inside, NOT in a plastic bag, home with S2 for me to wash. The teachers were kind of horrified by this and apologised for not knowing.
They also said they would follow my instructions moving forward.
Should I bring this up with X? As much as I've embraced no contact with him, I would absolutely do the right thing in matters of our child's behaviour or health and keep him in the loop. I don't want to set a precedent that this lack of communication is okay in this parenting relationship. Or is this not important enough to warrant a conversation?
