Hey Alison - Thanks for dropping by and thank you for checking in whilst I was missing in action. Yes - it's hitting home. I can see the stress in his eyes. He has lost weight and is definitively less chirpy.
They have just left (he brings the kids around in the afternoon when he has them for an hour). He walks our dog then sits on the stairs. I asked him as he was leaving what time he is dropping the kids home tomorrow as it hadn't been confirmed yet. He got all antsy and said after they finish their work, I replied, so, around 4 then. He repeated "when they've finished work. If you're not here, then I'll just stay until you're back". I asked him to message me out of courtesy when he was on his way tomorrow, and he went completely off the rails, said he didn't need to message me and stormed off.
I was fairly calm, smiled, told the girls (well D10, D13 had already gotten in the car) and then stewed for a bit. I then sent him a message saying "For the same reasons you do not want me turning up at your home unannounced, I do not want you turning up at mine unannounced. I am respectful of your choices. Please be respectful of mine".
He sent me back one saying "It's not 'your' house. So even though I am tolerant of the fact I have to have them back by a certain time, if we arrive early I will mind them until you get back". I just sent back a "you're being ridiculous and what does 'tolerant' of the fact you have to bring them back by a certain time mean".
Not very db. Not very calm and collected. But he is being utterly ridiculous.
