May - I am so sorry this has happened. In your earlier post, when you said your H had been thinking about why he'd done what he'd done, I thought that was such a good sign - that he was looking inwards instead of taking the easy answer and blaming you. This must be such a blow.
I don't know what to advise, other than I don't think you can repair your marriage while there's another person in it, and I don't think your H is really ready to remove the OW from his life. Whether you can wait, or are willing to wait, is perhaps something that isn't clear to you right now.
I was so angry when he asked if you'd wait six months while he went and tried to have a relationship with her. I know he admitted it was a crazy thing to ask, but even the fact that he'd disrespect you like that is astonishing to me.
