It will hurt. There is no doubt. Rejection is rejection. I had a long conversation with an old friend today. Half way through I was in tears. I have no interest in finding out if she’s blonde, skinny, tall or whatever. I have no interest in her at all. But, d@mn, if knowing he is with someone doesn’t increase my own sense of loneliness.
And, yes, I still had those moments when I would be out with people and having a great time, but then, I remember I’m supposed to be sad, and it comes flooding back.
But dilly, those feelings are not about him. Whereas before it was all about him, now they are about me. My loneliness. My feelings of rejection. And I might not be able to fix my M or fix him, but I can fix me. You’ve got this. And it is absolutely ok to miss being part of a couple from time to time. Feel it. Just don’t dwell in it.
