They don't do it to trigger us. It is purely that they don't think of us until after the fact, then maybe out of guilt, or an unwillingness to face conflict, they choose to hide it or rationalise it so they haven't done anything wrong, or we did something to force their hand and therefore our fault. It's a form of selfriishness followed by self protection.
That they continue to hide it even after you've seen the evidence is ridiculous. Strangely, I bet, now if you mention seeing the email, he will somehow either say that you're lying or say something like "yeah, so what", like your being neurotic, thereby completely missing the point and again making it seem somehow, like you're in the wrong.
Re-frame it. He is not trying to hurt you. It is not about you. He is doing what he thinks is right (you don't even come into it) and then he hides it to protect himself from a painful emotional confrontation (again, not about you, about him).
I missed the entries about the blonde. How are feeling about that?
