DB'ing while living in with a WAS/MLC husband

[BlueSea]

Thank you LH - I appreciate all the support!!

How do things change now, as far as DB efforts and speaking only when spoken to, keeping it short, cutting off first? Does this continue?

I was thinking next week, start a discussion about MC - too soon?
I know we are not on firm ground - I do want to give him space and time to deal with this OW loss. I plan to definitely stay out of that space so that I don't suffer some friendly fire casualties - as he may lash out at me/ blame me for how he is feeling due to her loss. I understand that was an important relationship for him and it was a support for him during his very low times.

What I don't want to happen is that the loss and need continue/grow such that he goes back to OW. I want to start to step in and fill that space. Its a tenuous line for sure to straddle - give space, but not too much that he feels lonely and is in want of companionship. He had said multiple times that he was lonely.

This is a real limbo - I am praying for guidance on how to be right now. There does not seem to be any tension coming from him during our interactions this morning - more from me! I am a pretty anxious person, and him playing California cool just makes me more anxious - and I hate that I stutter when I speak or when he tells me to speak up - I am not even able to 'fake it til you make it'!

I am sure I come off as a loon ... but maybe that puts him at ease that I am nervous... seems to.

Thanks for any advice,
Blue