Alison: I am afraid of all hell breaking loose when I tell him I'm filing for D. And I would like to keep it under wraps if possible until after the summer so I can spend time in my other house if I can. Seeing as he seems to have stolen it from me (I actually feel very aggrieved that he's there, though maybe better than him spending lots of money on rent for his other house he wasn't using). So if the price for that is an hour's walk with a miserable sod once a week then I can tolerate that. Plus I have no other way of knowing what's happening with his job, since he is pretty much NC. So I'm continuing to play the long game at least for the time being.
Still he's taking all this cash out. Then spent �800 on...something. He did get another month's pay though, presumably because he has still not finalised leaving. The whole taking money out and spending money thing is bizarre, is he trying to provoke me into an R talk? Or does he think I don't notice? I find it all so disgusting that staying NC is pretty easy.
I set up all the initial stuff with my lawyer, he says I can get everything drafted ready to file without H being involved. I want to discuss a bunch of stuff with him but would prefer to wait till H gets his money so the picture is clearer, so probably next week. I've been feeling poorly this week and a bit sorry for myself so not really up to discussing D. I will be documenting our financials ready for next week though. And I threw out a bunch of H's stuff this morning, that felt liberating.
