Completely lost, where am I?

[SteveLW]

Wow, that was so long ago, 2005, I can't even remember what the applications name was. I just remember installing on the computer, it would capture everything, even keystrokes. It would send things to an email address, but due to it being easier to detect that way I turned it off so it only stored them in an encrypted folder.

Now with smartphones it is so much harder. I thought about trying to get ahold of hers and setting up an application, but the logistics were such, and she was so ready to walk, that I saw that as a bridge too far. She would never cross over that bridge if I built it.

Requirements for staying with her are things like her recommitting fully back to the marriage. IC for her (and you). MC for both of you. Full transparency (so you won't need the app you wrote). Things like that.

Obviously we talked about the first one, needing consistent behavior over a long period of time. If and when that occurs you can then have a conversation about IC and MC. I would hold off on the full transparency discussion until you are both in MC and you can suggest it in that safe zone as something you'll need to be able to trust again. You know, the old "trust but verify".

Glad to help.