Still married couple from Scandinavia Part 2

[BenB]

Hi Steve,

If that is the case, I have completely misunderstood everything about DB. I don't remember those things from the book.

I'll start by saying, you are dead wrong if you think I have reached out to her at all. But I won't spend any time convincing you otherwise. Our communication is mostly through messenger and I've just scrolled back weeks and can't find a single conversation started by me. Why do you think I would lie about this? Why would telling you lies benefit me in any way?

Sorry, I haven't read DB in over a year but I can't remember specific advice like that. Telling her to get her things on a specific date etc. But now that I thought about it, we did set a date. She told me in December she is moving to a new apartment and asked if she could get them when she is settled in to the new apartment. Then came the cancer issue and I wasn't about to bring up some boxes when that happened and Steve, I'm sorry but that is pointless to discuss with me. I couldn't care less if it sounds like I am making excuses. That is a valid reason to put DB aside. Not sure if you remember but AS and others(vets I believe) agreed I should put DB aside when I received that information. I will take in to consideration any advice I receive here but if anyone tries to explain how I should ignore her when she found that lump, it is a waste of our time. It could have been a friend who reached out I hardly have any contact with, someone who did something hurtful in the past even, I would still let go of any grudge and call them up immediately. So most certainly I would do that in this case and if DB is against that, I do not care.

Steve, you seem so sure I am being friend zoned. AS, perhaps you forgot but a few posts ago you agreed she was sending out recon vibes? I know the friend zone vibe and that's not what I feel when we meet anymore. But doesn't mean I am sure she wouldn't back off if I showed interest. That's why I haven't. She asks to meet and do things together at times. I thought DB encouraged to accept some invitations and decline others? Not to go completely dark as the one and only solution? I'll try to read it again after I'm finished with the current book I'm reading.